Today.com and Parenting.com joined together to uncover Moms’ deepest, darkest secrets. The results are in! Some of the “secrets” aren’t really all that surprising, such as how often we use our children to get out of social obligations. Others are a bit mystifying, and I hope they publish the questions, so we can see what they were really asking.
When the Prosecution argued that Casey Anthony was drugging Caylee with Xanax in order to go party (hence the fictional nanny, “Zanny”) I was shocked. Who does that shit? Well, to a lesser extent, apparently one in 12 Moms.
Not to party, necessarily. To sleep. Or maybe to read. Have some time to herself. The good folks at Today.com haven’t yet explained that data–so maybe the drug of choice is just Tylenol or Benadryl?
But does it matter? You are drugging your kid, for chrissake.
It’s hard to get the whole picture from this bit of data. I know what it’s like to be so tired you physically can’t take care of your baby. And that’s the exact moment I handed Miss L over to Mr. A. So who are these child-drugging moms and where are the dads?
And since clearly these moms have reached their absolute breaking point, what can we do to help? Because when this sort of thing is happening, it ceases to be the problem of the individual and becomes the problem of society. Sure, maybe giving your five-year-old a dose of Benadryl when he doesn’t have allergies isn’t a big deal the first time. There aren’t a whole lot of side effects, other than drowsiness (which would be the whole point, in such a case). But where would it end?
Besides the slippery slope argument, what really concerns me is that this is really just another symptom of stressed out moms cracking under the unbearable weight of parenting alone. We were made to live in tribes, so it’s time we parents started acting like a tribe.
It starts with each one of us. Check in with your mom friends and see how they are doing. Check in with your church and see if anyone needs help. Pay attention.
And if you’re the one who is drugging your kid, for heaven’s sake step away from the Benadryl and ask for help. Talk to your doctor. Consider seeing a psychiatrist. No one should have to go through this alone.